by Jerry Colonna
A psychological tool to shift from blame to agency. By asking how one is complicit (like an accomplice, not necessarily responsible/guilty) in creating unwanted conditions, leaders uncover the hidden benefits or 'delusions' driving their behaviors.
Core Principles
- 1.Ask the core question: 'How have I been complicit in creating the conditions I say I don't want?'
- 2.Distinguish 'Complicity' from 'Responsibility': You are the getaway driver, not necessarily the bank robber.
- 3.Identify the 'Hidden Benefit': What psychological need is being met by this bad situation? (e.g., being busy = feeling important/safe).
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"The purpose of this question is actually to evoke your own agency. A perfect example of that would be, I say I don't want to feel busy all the time, but the truth of the matter is I feel really unnerved... if my agenda isn't jam-packed."